How do you explain something so extraordinary to an almost-2-year-old? For the past few months I’ve been trying my best to come up with a way to make him understand what’s coming and I gave up and realized recently that it’s just too big for him to comprehend. Heck, it’s too big for me to comprehend, how can I really expect Knox to?
Most of our conversations about the baby go something like this:
Me: “Do you see Mommy’s belly?”
Knox: “Hm?” looks at my belly, looks at his own belly
Me: pointing at my belly “Your baby sister is in here.”
Knox: stares blankly
Me: “Do you want your baby sister to come out of Mommy’s tummy & come live with us?”
Me: “Why not? She loves you. She wants to come play with you! She’s really nice.”
Knox: “Play? Nice?”
Me: “Yep, really nice.”
Knox: grabs nearest toy and clutches it close to his chest “No, MINE!”
Pretty unsuccessful so far, I’d say. Everyone tells me he will love her once she gets here, and I’m sure that will come. My goal for now is just to talk about her enough so that she exists in his mind, even if in some completely confusing way, so that her presence isn’t a total and complete shock to his world.
I like to imagine the two of them looking at each other with wonder and amazement. I see them messy-haired snuggling sleepy-eyed slumber party pals; fierce defenders, kissing each others boo-boos; dripping wet, sun-glistened playmates holding hands and running through sprinklers; giggling serious inventors of crazy imagination games;faces glowing and fists full of popcorn sharing movies and memories.
I can’t wait to watch my family grow.